Rashida ‘I’m Holding Miley Accountable’

KIIS FM's Jingle Ball 2013 Presented By T-Mobile In Partnership With Samsung - ShowParks & Recreation star Rashida Jones article in Cosmopolitan bashing Miley Cyrus: I’m not gonna lie. The fact that I was accused of ‘slut-shaming,’ being anti-woman, and judging women’s sex lives crushed me. I consider myself a feminist. I would never point a finger at a woman for her actual sexual behavior, and I think all women have the right to express their desires.

But I will look at women with influence—millionaire women who use their ‘sexiness’ to make money, and ask some questions. There is a difference, a key one, between ‘shaming’ and ‘holding someone accountable.’

So back to the word whore. My hashtag was ‘stopactinglikewhores.’ Key word, acting. Like I said, I’m not criticizing anyone’s real sex life; as George Michael tells us, ‘Sex is natural, sex is fun.’ But the poles, the pasties, the gyrating: This isn’t showing female sexuality; this is showing what it looks like when women sell sex. (Also, let’s be real. Every woman’s sexuality is different.

Can all of us really be into stripper moves? The truth is, for every woman who loves the pole, there’s another who likes her feet rubbed. But in pop culture there’s just one way to be. And so much of it feels staged for men, not for our own pleasure.)

I understand that owning and expressing our sexuality is a huge step forward for women. But, in my opinion, we are at a point of oversaturation. It’s like when TV network censors evaluate a show’s content. Instead of doing a detailed report of dirty jokes or offensive words, they will simply say, ‘It’s a tonnage issue.’ One or two swear words might be fine; 10 is too many. Three sexual innuendos is OK; eight is overkill. When it comes to porn imagery and pop culture, we have a tonnage issue.

And then there’s this: What else ties these pop stars together besides, perhaps, their entangled G-strings? Their millions of teen-girl fans. Even if adult Miley and Nicki have ownership of their bodies, do the girls imitating them have the same agency? Where do we draw the line between teaching them freedom of sexual expression and pride in who they are on the inside? Are we even allowed to draw a line?

Some people think not. Sinéad O’Connor got blowback after writing an open letter to Miley Cyrus, warning her of the dangers of her constant sexual imagery: ‘The music business.. will prostitute you for all you are worth.. and when you wind up in rehab.. ‘they’ will be sunning themselves on their yachts in Antigua, which they bought by selling your body, and you will find yourself very alone.’ Miley responded by basically calling her crazy.

It’s all enough to make you want to take a monastic vow and swear off Wi-Fi forever. But I’m an optimistic woman. So as we say goodbye to 2013 and wish for a slightly more clothed, more original 2014, I have a few requests:

Record execs: When you market young pop stars, can you please try to apply some of your own personal moral parameters? (I’m just going to assume you don’t take off your suit midmeeting and do a selfie with a whipped-cream bra.)

Women: Let’s at least try to discuss the larger implications of female sexuality on pop culture without shaming each other. There’s more than one way to be a good feminist. Personally, I loved the Lily Allen “Hard Out Here” video—a controversial send-up of tits-and-ass culture. She helped start a conversation. Let’s continue it.

Men: WHERE ARE YOU??? Please talk to us about how all this makes you feel. You are 49 percent of the population; don’t sit around and let women beat one another up while you intermittently and guiltily enjoy the show. Speak up! We care what you think!

And finally, pop stars: Please stop saying you don’t want to be role models. Because, guess what: You are. You want to sell millions of albums? You want to sell out a tour? You depend on the millions of people who adore you. So maybe just consider some sort of moral exchange program, in the same way that carbon credits make people feel better about driving an SUV.

Go ahead and make videos in which your ass cheeks slap water around in slow motion; go ahead and tweet pictures of your undercarriage. But perhaps every eleventh song or video, do something with some more clothes on? Maybe even a song that empowers women to feel good about some other great quality we have? Like, I don’t know…our empathy, or childbearing skills, or ability to forgive one another for mean tweets?

I know some people will wonder what gives me the authority to tell people to do anything. The answer is: nothing at all. But I feel this way—and I’m guessing other women might too. Besides, let me get to the point of this, which is that I’m dropping my new single this year! And if everything continues in this direction, my single will be literally dropping out of my butt. Live at the Video Music Awards. See you there.

  • http://instagram.com/foreverjordan thesestrangelittlethings

    Rashida worded that really well. People aren’t going to agree with, but I think she’s awesome.

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  • Alii

    Rashida Jones.

  • BangBang

    Tell’em girl! Loved this.

  • Siel

    Rashida also did sexy underwear photos for Maxim and GQ, showing off her tits and ass.

    She’s as whorish as the people she claims to be better than.

    • hmph

      “Go ahead and make videos in which your ass cheeks slap water around in slow motion; go ahead and tweet pictures of your undercarriage. But perhaps every eleventh song or video, do something with some more clothes on?”

    • amy

      She never said women can’t show off their bodies and be sexy….

  • Anon

    Love Rashida and this made me like her even more. I especially liked the bit about being a role model. So true

  • anonymous

    no. she’s actually a (minor) part of the problem. by saying it’s OK to do this almost all the time it just creates the incentive for people to do it all the time. none of these drug-addicted irrational teen performers is going to try to keep within the limits just to be ‘a good person’ without clear and conservative rules

  • cerenagee

    Thank you. This is a true feminist, she’s not bashing on Miley herself but saying her behavior is basically disgusting and everything that a feminist fights against. She worded this perfectly. Thank you Rashida.

    Now someone sit this bitch down and make her read this article so she can see that she is NOT a shining light of hope for feminism but rather a feminists worst nightmare.


  • smb

    It’s very simple. If you have an opinion on what female sexuality should be like and what feminism mean, a mature adult can express themselves without having to name drop. The fact she mention Miley and other makes her comment irrelevant, and in fact make me believe she really doesn’t mean what she say, but is saying for publicity. In other words, she using Miley’s and others popularity to boost her own.

    • Marina And My Diamonds

      What were you reading? Because somehow you missed the WHOLE point.

    • amy

      This whole article is a response to a tweet she posted about Miley. That is why she mentions miley’s name.

      And if you think Rashida doesn’t believe every word that she is saying, you don’t know who she is at all.

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    I’m holding your mother accountable for that name Rashida

    • cerenagee

      Grow the fuck up. Your momm jokes were okay back when Wilmer hosted yo momma. And even then theywweren’t fucking cool. Grow up and focus on the value of what she said.