Bella Thorne ‘Sex Is Beautiful’

bella-thorne-seventeen (2)bella-thorne-sex (2)Bella Thorne on Seventeen cove: On The Pressures To Have Sex: ‘It needs to be the most special, beautiful thing that ever happened. It should be a decision you feel right about. If you don’t feel 100% about it, then it shouldn’t happen. It has to be something you want with your whole heart.”

On Body Image: ‘Girls are shamed for their bodies and made to believe that they’re not supposed to show them or love them. They’re made to believe that they aren’t perfect, that they need to ‘work on it,’ that they need to see themselves differently—and I think it’s freaking ridiculous. It gets on my nerves because boys can do whatever; it’s like we’re living in the 1800s again. It drives me crazy.’

On Working Hard: ‘In my family, we don’t come from a whole lot of money. We work for everything and we don’t ever stop until we’re done. I don’t like people who think they can get places in life just because of their last name. That doesn’t work for me.’

Bella Thorne debut album and single is called ‘Call It Whatever’.



On Her Relationship With Boyfriend, Tristan Klier: ‘Tristan was not a relationship guy before me. On our first date, he thought I was going to be just like the other girls he had met who would always give it up and kiss him right away.. I waited six weeks, I had to make sure he was in it to win it.’

On Blended Costar, Drew Barrymore: ‘Drew [Barrymore] is so positive and beautiful on the inside and out. On the set of Blended, she always had a smile and looked at the positive side of things. I learned from that, and I think other girls should too.’

On Never Giving Up On Her Dreams: ‘[If my agent says] ‘No, you don’t understand. They’re offering [the part] to someone else,’ I don’t care. Get me back in. I want to see the director again. For me, it’s not a matter of ‘Well, it’s gone.’ No, there’s always something you can do to change someone’s mind.’

On Not Being A Party Girl: ‘Honestly, I’d rather sit in my bed and watch Netflix. That is me all day long. Or my mom’s like “Bella, aren’t you going to hang out with your friends?” And I’m like, “I can’t! I have math to do.” I can’t be behind, I’ll freak out.’

On Her Relationship With Shake It Up Costar, Zendaya’ The truth is we are so different, there is no competition. And when people tried to compare us or turn us against each other, we’d just talk about it, and then everything was cool. We love each other.’

  • yung illuminati

    I can’t believe she’s 16.

    • threelittlebirds

      damn really? i thought she was like 18 or 19.

  • threelittlebirds

    i totally agree on what she said about having sex when you’re ready. don’t do it just because everyone else is doing it.

  • Caitlyn D

    it sounds like shes already tried it

    • Hollyhysteria

      Well shes been with her boyfriend since like 2011/2012

      • Hollyhysteria

        But still way young

      • Caitlyn D

        eh true just not sure i think its ok to put it out there

      • df

        Most people lose theirs are that age. She has been with her bf for a while, nothing wrong w/ that.

  • Tash

    OU, why you gotta make that title so misleading. Making it seem like that girl is actually describing how she finds sex to be. Like she getting it on & is so chilled about it. Her comment was so innocent & sweet. Btw, I still wouldn’t date a guy who used to be a player. I’d feel he isn’t truly being a good guy because he wants to, but rather because he’s scared to lose me. So technically, I’d be with a closet asshole. Ticking time bomb. It’s kinda fucked that he dated her under the assumption she was easy. She had to almost make him treat her well. I don’t know how I could ever love someone, knowing that they once thought of me as easy & just another chick. I don’t care if the guy doesn’t know you. He just needs to be a decent person period. I’d always wonder what he’s really thinking & how he truly feels, or be scared that he doesn’t even have genuine morals or good judgement. I know they’re young. But if it’s a relationship, you are talking about a future. I can’t live a life of paranoia & make a life partner out of someone I’m not sure is dependable.

    • anonymous

      :’) this is so true

  • Emmatome

    She seems smart. That’s a good and important thing, especially is you’re going to be a “role model” for young girls out there.

  • anonymous

    that guy is such a creeper

    • Queen Amanda Bynes

      He’s like 16 so he’s not lol

      • anonymous

        that’s irrelevant

  • Hollyhysteria

    I really hope she stays this way and doesn’t go off being a hoe..

    • anonymous

      i don’t know what trick she’s playing on you but she’s hoed out to this guy. not major hoe (thankfully she still can be not a real hoe), but he is so lame and she’s basically playing his game even though she’s the earner

      • Hollyhysteria

        Yeah…

      • Hollyhysteria

        I’m not a fan of hers though so it doesn’t matter

  • damnthesecelebs

    But that cover doesn’t even look like her :/

  • dlovCyr

    Is this 13 year old really giving advice on sex?

    • Alex

      She’s 16 lol

  • honesty

    This sounds like she is speaking from experience and that is not okay. I’m hoping she waits though. If she waited for a kiss or whatever, maybe she can wait for this. People are having sex way too young.

  • laura

    Oh wow the girl had sex, boohoo. She’s 16, that’s an appropriate age.

    • maybe im wrong

      not in the US?

      • laura

        Get over yourself, please. There’s plenty of people in the US having sex at the age of 16, it’s just frowned upon there because of religion.

        • guest

          Actually the only “issue” about it is it’s technically illegal. Religion has nothing to do with it.

          • laura

            Well it isn’t illegal in Europe, sorry I don’t know the American law jfc.

          • ddd

            It isn’t, not illegal unless someone is 18+ w/ a minor.
            If it was, I’d feel like we were in Saudi Arabia

          • fdafa

            Wtf, it isn’t illegal. It only is illegal if she does it w/ some 18+…

          • Tash

            It’s illegal in certain countries. Being under 18 means you’re a minor. It’s illegal for a minor to consent to sex. So even if two minors have sex with each other. It’s illegal as they both are under 18 & thus cannot consent to sex. In South Africa, those who are 16 & younger cannot engage in any sexual act, kiss, cuddle or hold hands with each other. According to law, it is illegal.

        • Marina And My Diamonds

          Depending where you live in America. For example in California you have to be 18, in Michigan sexual consent is 16.

          • laura

            Oh so it’s different in every state? wow.
            Here in most European countries, if not all I’m not sure, the age is 16. A 16 year old is also allowed to have sex with someone over 18.

    • Tash

      I would say 18 or the age at which you’re done with school(after 21 if you’re wise). Cos at least at that age you’re a legal adult & you have some sort of an education. So if you fuck up & get knocked up, you’re placed at a somewhat advantage & can handle that shit & own up to the responsibility. Instead of treating abortion like contraception, leaving more orphans to fend for themselves or just putting your kid with a disadvantage from birth by having a kid for a mother, who is uneducated & can’t even get a decent job to support herself or the child.

      • Lily

        OR we can tell kids that if they’re going to be in a relationship and have sex, x-y-z is how you protect yourself, prevent pregnancy and STIs (and yes, even prevent abortion). Come on sis, there are 13 year olds getting pregnant. Clearly telling them “don’t have sex until you’re grown up” is NOT WORKING.

        • Tash

          I do understand that. Education is vital. As well as access to contraceptives. But we should stop treating it like the 1st option. It isn’t & shouldn’t be. But off course if my child or a young person refuses to listen & insists on being active. I would readily take them & get them on the pill & give them condoms & insist they use both. We just need to be more proactive & involved. But we definitely need to weed out this YOLO mentality this generation is stuck on or restructure it. You do only live once. Make it the best life possible. Don’t fuck it away with impulsive decisions. You’re ruining your life & possibly the life of somebody who didn’t ask to be born. We have access to so much, yet we insist on adding to & continuing this cycle of disadvantage. It’s shocking, this is something that is the very cause of the majority of the problems the world is facing(orphans, poverty, disease) yet it is one thing we can control. We have the power. Yet we choose to be selfish & irresponsible.

          • anonymous

            hmm i think we have something close to a genius here

          • ffff

            Sexual desire is a natural thing and as humans we were supposed to reproduce when we are teenagers. The only reason we are at a later age is due to society.
            So, no one can tell kids no because they will do it anyways. What we need to do is educate on contraceptives, birth control, etc.I don’t think weeding out any mentality would work. It is a natural thing.

        • yung illuminati

          I agree that there should be more awareness around sex and protection these days, especially because teenagers are starting to explore it at earlier ages these days. However there still comes risks along with having sex, no matter if you use protection or not.

          Personally I was brought up with the “don’t have sex until you’re grown up” attitude and I’m only a few years older than Bella and so far it’s worked for me. Everyone is different, sex is different for everyone so coming to a consensus on it will never be black and white.

          • laura

            There comes risks with anything, but if you are ready and responsible and know about these risks, I don’t see the problem.
            But like you said, everyone is different. People just need to respect that instead of telling one is right and the other is wrong. If you want to stay a virgin, good for you. But if you don’t, good for you as well.

          • Lily

            I was brought up in a more liberal manner, with my parents informing me about sex and the consequences of not playing it safe, but that sex was OK and not bad if I felt ready. Did that mean they encouraged me to have sex? Nope. The opposite actually (I’m still a virgin, believeeee it or not lol). Having that openness and education made me come to the right decisions (for me) and I’m really thankful for that and I wish more people had the same. That way if they decide to have sex (which, I don’t know why we’re painting so negatively?) they can be prepared. Kids fuck up when they don’t know what they’re doing, plain and simple.

      • laura

        First of, sexual education should be thought in 6th grade because that’s when bodies start to develop and puberty more or less starts. No one is treating abortion like contraception, only people who are prolife seem to have that fucked up idea about it.
        Also, 16 year olds are so much more educated about sex than you think and if they aren’t you can blame it on schools who think that sexual education will lead to teen pregnancies and therefore teach them abstinence or teach the guys to pull out.
        I know you’re from India so I guess it’s all different there but don’t let that form your opinion about this, please.

        • Tash

          I’m not from India. But I am Indian. I am from South Africa. We have sex education & I went to a very good semi-private school. My parents are very strict & overbearing but I do see how ridiculous they are & sadly just agree with them but ignore what they say. My opinions are entirely my own. I was a political science major & now I’ve moved on to community development. My opinions are largely based upon my sadness for our current state of affairs. I don’t believe in sex before marriage. But that’s an individual choice & I will never preach to anyone or talk to anyone who doesn’t care to listen to those ideals. Nor do I tell anyone their beliefs are incorrect or try to change them. I’m just pleading with people to be more responsible. We are the cause of our problems. Stupid decisions like these that have such a great impact when we have millions who carry on in the same way. I just believe in prevention. Without it, we can never find a fix. We’ll just keep adding, quicker than we can help. I’m not naive or delusional. I don’t have a purely prevention based stand. We need to keep trying to create a fix to the problems we already face & the potential issues we will face. Education & access is key. But we really need to rally a prevention stand too. Not from a faith based or morality front, but through facts & being open & brutally honest.

          • laura

            I do think people need to be more responsible too, the problem is just that so many teens out there don’t get the education they should be getting. Teen pregnancies were the norm back in the days, but that was also in a time where sex was a taboo, women didn’t work, didn’t have rights and were only good enough to breed. That is the reason why there are too many people on this planet right now, not because 16 year olds are having sex.
            And I think it is perfectly ok that you want to wait and I applaud you for not forcing people to do the same, seriously I do. And that is why I just want people to decide it for themselves instead of getting shamed because of it.

    • anonymous

      you’re oversimplifying sex like it’s walking down the street. other guys who aren’t losers will not be happy that she’s been used by another guy. there is a chemical attachment through sex. etc. we’ve been through this before

      • laura

        Oh wow so now a woman is an object that can be used by men? Why on earth should a woman care about a man’s opinion? WHY?
        I am getting so fed up about this. Just educate yourself about these matters instead of following your religion or prejudice or whatever it is that is distorting your view of a woman’s sexuality.

        • anonymous

          i guess it’s some form of ‘liberal feminism’ that you’re enjoying being a member of? unfortunately you’re left with a problem: your choices will cause others to think and behave differently about and to you, and it will matter. also you’d have to be really using your imagination to think she’d be getting anything from sex with this guy

          • laura

            What I do in private is none of anyone else’s concern. Does it really change you as a person because you’ve had sex with more than one guy? Does that influence your intelligence, your abilities or your work? No, it doesn’t.
            If you don’t want to have sex with more than one person, good for you. But if another woman has and you feel entitled to call her names and tell her she isn’t living her life the right way, you’re living in the wrong time period.

          • anonymous

            free sexuality is older than restraint. and yes it does change you, chemically, then emotionally, then socially. you should look up the data. even look around you. are the casual sex people happier?

          • laura

            The only chemical change that might (!) happen is that your libido is boosted because of new brain spines and that hasn’t even been proven yet. You might want to look up the data.
            And yes, they are definitely happier because they don’t have to deal with the problems that come from a relationship. And when they want a relation, they can easily have one.

          • anonymous

            you do this so often you look like an idiot. ‘the only chemical change…’ how do you even say that kind of thing because you must know you don’t actually know. if a person reads your stuff and just chooses to accept your incorrect opinions what do you think will happen to them? or is that your right to just make stuff up?

          • laura

            Girl, you told me to look up the data and I did. Don’t be mad at me because the data isn’t what you would want it to be.
            And an opinion can’t be wrong as long as that opinion is respectful. The only one here being not respectful is you, telling women they should be ashamed of themselves because they don’t live the life you would want them to live. Like I said, if you want to stay a virgin until marriage, good for you. But don’t tell other women how to live their lives and don’t insult them because they don’t want to stay a virgin. At least I am giving women the choice and respecting that choice.

          • anonymous

            what you looked up the data for all of 30 mins? that’s not long enough. i don’t think your message is simply accepting other people’s opinions, it’s supporting and promoting people who feel like it to have casual relationships. that’s a interesting choice. because it will have an impact on their lives. it’s like saying you support people to smoke. the data is actually pretty similar. lives can be seriously negatively affected permanently either way. i think your assumption is that sex is some kind of fun event like going to the park, and people can do it and if you suggest they shouldn’t then it’s oppressive. actually you’re ignoring the real impact on people’s lives because it’s convenient for you. it’s very convenient to tell your friends ‘yes, i support you doing whatever you like’

          • laura

            I am not even going to bother anymore. It’s clear you can’t respect people who have a different opinion than you and that you want to force everyone to believe what you say is right.
            Stop hating on everything you aren’t used to and explore the world, explore life. Then maybe we can have an actual conversation about this matter.

          • anonymous

            classic tricks (strawman, burden of proof, audience ignorance, etc) you’re using to avoid responding to the actual arguments. no problem. but remember that if you think you can say these things without being called out you’re really wrong

          • Lily

            It depends on the person entirely, so don’t generalize. I know women who couldn’t be happier with flings and not being constrained in serious relationships, and simultaneously I know women who have only have had sex with one person and are happy campers. All women are different and we shouldn’t dictate how they should live their lives based on our own values. If they want to fuck a ton of people? Cool. If they want to remain a virgin until marriage? That’s cool too.

          • anonymous

            well that’s nice but most people won’t be so happy over their whole life if they have such cheap relationships. and any reputable source of statistics i’ve seen agrees with that

          • Lily

            “your choices will cause others to think and behave differently about and to you” and women should be subjugated in favour of ignorant pricks who place more value in a female’s virtue than perhaps she does herself? You precisely pointed out the problem… WITH OTHER PEOPLE. Not women who choose to have sex.

  • http://www.twitter.com/ hudgens.

    Hey, two of my faves are here! @disqus_NmC5AMeuJ5:disqus @disqus_ftfP4VJ32z:disqus

    • Tash

      I’m hurt I have to share. I refuse. Laura, this is war :p

      • laura

        Aww no, wars are awful! :p we can all just get along and be friends lmao

        • http://www.twitter.com/ hudgens.

          Lmfao tash you’re all my faves! well not all, but you know what I mean.

  • Kurdt Kobain

    her nose is so weird

  • anonymous

    i’m being blocked from replying to people

  • Lily

    I s2g, OU purposefully makes deceiving titles on posts like this to get debates going.

  • Tash

    No. We all are not being given the option to reply anonymous. There must be some kind of issue on the page. Anyway, let’s all calm down please. It’s okay to agree to disagree & leave it at that. We don’t to change each other. This is a place to state a personal opinion. It’s okay to interact & share if we may disagree. But once you see that someone is sure & firm in their beliefs & not just ignorant, it is time to leave that person alone. Another issue we have is a lack of respect, understanding & intolerance. We don’t have to be friends, but being civil towards each other is a must. Hating another because they refuse to adhere to YOUR rules is unfair. It’s THEIR life. If it doesn’t directly affect you & they don’t care for your concern, take it elsewhere or use it privately to blossom in your own endeavors. #Peace

    • anonymous

      i disagree. i think i can manage my own ‘respect, understanding & intolerance’ while having useful arguments

      just remember that we are still intolerant of many things, and for good reasons. don’t just assume it’s easy to choose what should be tolerated

  • Lily

    No one’s hating. We’ve had a pretty civil debate imo.

  • Marina And My Diamonds

    She seems smart.
    There are many emotions and responsibilities that go with sex. There are very few teens ready to take all that goes with it but yet they ignorantly have sex anyways. You’re not lame for waiting especially since sex is so fleeting.

  • Queen Amanda Bynes

    She’s right. But she should also promote safe sex. Unless you want a baby or std.

    People take what she says seriously.

  • ji

    So basically what she’s really saying is she’s not a virgin lmao