It’s easy to think of the male orgasm as an all-or-nothing proposition. You either have one or not, right? If you think about it, though, they’re not exactly all created equal. You can certainly think back on at least an occasion or two where you felt even more satisfied than usual. Whatever the reason that was, it should be evidence enough that there is room for improvement with all your other orgasms, too.
And what guy wouldn’t want to have a mind-blowing orgasm each and every time? Whether you’re with yourself or a partner, there are lots of ways you can level up your firepower. Keep in mind that some of these are more adventurous than others… we’re going to be talking about how to use a prostate massager, among other things. So here are our five ways you can make your orgasms better today!
1. Diet and Exercise
This may not be the most exciting suggestion, but that doesn’t change the fact that your overall health will have a significant impact on your sex life. Diet in particular can have far-reaching consequences.
The major culprits include:
- Fatty foods
Even some things you might think are going to improve the situation can actually backfire, such as cutting back on caffeine or going vegan.
Healthy eating habits go hand-in-hand with staying physically fit overall. Obviously, the better your overall health, the longer you can go in the bedroom and build up to that oh-so-satisfying climax.
Most men figure out at a relatively young age that the longer they go between orgasms, the more it feels like it’s been “building up” when they finally do ejaculate. Studies on this topic conflict with this view, offering conclusions that semen doesn’t actually build up and that ejaculating a larger amount doesn’t improve the experience. Are they asking the right questions in these studies? Who knows. Your mileage may vary, though, so it’s worth taking a look at edging for those who are curious.
“Edging” is the practice of coming to the very brink of orgasm over and over again without going over the “edge” and ejaculating. This can prolong the experience, with some men experiencing them as multiple orgasms. They’re not wrong. The exciting build-up and eventual release are two sides to the male orgasm, and you can enjoy the build-up as many times as you (or your partner) like before that bone-shattering ejaculation at the end.
Taking a little trip to kinkville, you have denial. This is a lot like edging, but the ejaculation doesn’t take place at all. It is, for all intents and purposes, being “denied” the orgasm by your partner as part of light kink play. Repeated edging and then being left hanging can play with a lot of psychological and physical sensations, which is what attracts many people to try it.
The cherry on top is that testosterone is boosted during sexual activity and then drops after orgasm; but if the ejaculation doesn’t happen, you might find yourself remaining in the mood for more play sooner than later. Who could complain about that?
4. Prostate Massager
When you feel that orgasm building up, what you’re feeling is your body kicking into high gear and mustering the troops for deployment. Much of the semen actually comes from the seminal vesicles, while the more famous prostate contributes fluid to nourish the sperm. Once the peak is hit, the prostate engorges with semen and the sperm coming up from your testicles. The prostate starts contracting rhythmically to force the semen into your urethra, your pelvic floor muscles sync up and take over, and off you go.
A vibrating prostate massager can take that experience and turn it up to full blast. More than a mere butt plug, a prostate massager is shaped specifically to apply gentle pressure to the “P-spot,” or prostate. This increased sensation can heighten and prolong that sensation of build-up. Combine this with stimulation to the penis, anus, and anything else that’s getting attention, and it can make you blast off like a rocket.
5. Kegel Exercises
While mostly known for their benefits for women, men can also get a lot out of doing Kegel exercises. They strengthen the muscles that help you hold your urine and control the stream. That means they also help strengthen the muscles you use for ejaculation and can lead to more powerful pulses.
Kegels are easy to do anytime, anywhere:
- With an empty bladder, sit or lie down
- Clench your pelvic floor muscles for 3 to 5 seconds like you’re trying to hold back urine
- Relax and repeat after 3 to 5 seconds
- Do it ten times, 3 times per day
If edging and denial turn out to be your thing, another kink technique to consider is orgasm control. One of the ways this can be done is when your partner intentionally takes you over the “edge” and you have to try to hold back the ejaculation. You’ll be grateful for those kegels if you go in this direction, and the eventual release is worth the wait.
Turn It up to 11
We hope we’ve given you some food for thought on how to take an orgasm and turn it all the way up. Enjoy!